Once again about the women-Muzhsky friendship

The theme of the women-Muzhsky friendship is inexhaustible. How much a human race will exist, there will be so many disputes about this. Someone believes that real friendship does not depend on the gender, others are sure that under the guise of comrades lovers are always masked … Well, I will not argue, this is a personal matter for everyone. I’ll just express some of my thoughts on this issue. Fortunately, I have enough experience in it.

It began in childhood. In the country, where I spent every summer, only boys were my friends in the games. It so happened that none of the neighbors were born girls. Except me. However, at that time it was difficult to call me a girl-a real breakdown in shorts, a cap and a short haircut. It is not surprising that over the years, this habit of friends with men has not disappeared. Ask why? Everything is simple here: they are more sincere and faithful as comrades, they can really help (and not just to mature for the company) in difficult times; They always clearly express their thoughts, so that there is no need to guess anything. And, as a rule, they do not conceal evil. If you didn’t like something, they say it directly about it, without abyss. Maybe I like this line of behavior because I myself have some male character traits.

Well, now — the reverse side of the coin. It would be unfair to serve only a positive attitude towards a “biennial” friendship. You won’t believe it, but just five years ago I got into my own trap. On the one hand, I myself am friends with men, and on the other, I was terribly jealous of the guy's girlfriends. Stas is a prominent guy, his girls were not translated. Come on, understand: which is a truly girlfriend, and which is the most that is the separation. I cried at night, threatened to leave if the next “tattered cat” calls at twelve in the morning, but still endured. Because she loved. Then I met my future husband and everything changed. I admit, I'm so glad that my spouse is friends exclusively with men! .. Say, dishonest? Perhaps, but in your own innocence to be confident easier than in a stranger.

By the way, if you suspect that in the “biennial” friendship of your faithful or missile, not everything is clean, it is easy to check. Real friends never meet secretly, they have a lot of joint photographs. When you have just agreed, for sure the first to whom you were introduced was the bosom friend. And it doesn’t matter who it is — Svetka or Romych. But lovers disguised as comrades behave completely differently. They try not to glow anywhere, automatically hide the places of meetings, leave the room during a telephone conversation. This is done intuitively, although it would be more correct to behave openly.

In a word, each of us will still relate to the women-Muzhsky friendship as the experience tells him. And there are no unequivocal rules here — life itself arranges the conditions. No one will give a guarantee that her husband’s long-standing friend will once be in your married bed. And at the same time — there you can find a neighbor, a stranger, and even … your own best friend. So does it make sense to brand friendship if such troubles are just coincidences?