How to make a person who complains is to stop boring

How to force the complainant to stop straining the relationship. Tips against excessively annoying friends and friends. After all, inappropriate moans strengthen friendship, and permanent groans are undermined.

Complaints in a soft form can be useful to friends, writes Xrust. For example, a slight grunt over a common enemy can help strengthen partnership. Complaints of everyday problems, such as bad weather, traffic jams or the cost of housing, can be catharsical and contribute to the leveling of feelings. Having splashed emotions on the sympathetic listener, you will feel support if you are faced with an unsolvable or difficult problem.

However, complaints can become toxic. Among those — outpourings, devoid of malice or humor. Such depresses and repel. They tie to other people's experiences. You can start rolling down with a friend and begin to look for your listener complaints.

What to do? He tries to find a job, quarrels with a relative or fights health problems?

Although this will not necessarily make complaints less annoying, this can help you become more sympathetic. Then such words are appropriate: it seems that recently everything is being out of the rut. What annoys you most? -Such a manifestation of support can soften his disappointment and feel support.

Do not listen carefully to Grushna
when your friend has turned into a self-centered and displeased person, be a less attentive listener. Perhaps he addresses you again and again, because you sympathize and ask exciting questions. In this case, change your behavior. For example, after listening to the next complaint, say this is hard. And do not continue the topic.

Perhaps the help of a doctor
If a personal problem turns into a disaster, explain that a therapist could provide more effective support. After all, you simply do not have the right words for constructive sympathy.

Xrust How to make a person who complains, stop getting boring