How to shrug off mom's kind criticism

I recently completed a large-scale renovation on backyard, and my mom expressed disappointment that I didn't invite her to watch. I promised there would be a grand opening. It bothers me that we have different tastes. She will criticize gently again.

Mom is one of those who always gives compliments in words, but by her facial expression you can often understand what she really feels, writes xrust. It seems to me that she is always false. My brother replied that I was being unfair. He pointed out that I could be accused of the same bias if I judge a person not for his words and actions, but for my own beliefs about what is going on in his head, regardless of whether it is true or not. I never thought about it that way.

My brother never seems to care about other people's opinions. I'd like to try his way of thinking, it seems very liberating. It's especially difficult to accept the idea that I should just ignore it when I feel silent criticism or when someone is just being nice to me.

Psychologist's Conclusion

It's all about this one question. Are you talking to your mom to get her approval or to get a negative result? Just change the orientation — you are talking to her to brighten up her time.

You know that your head is too different from your mother's. You have your own life experience and your own time. Be lenient with your mother's comments. They were valuable decades ago.

You need to overcome your insecurities. It is this trait that forces you to seek approval for your actions.

Xrust How to brush aside your mother’s kind criticism